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I am very happy with my husband, but my mother-in-law never lets me live in peace. She fights with me constantly, restricts me from eating freely, uses abusive language, and even curses me and my father. My husband spends his entire salary on his mother, while I manage all my personal expenses through my own job. Despite everything, I have remained patient because I genuinely love my husband and want to protect my marriage. However, I am now emotionally exhausted and mentally broken. My mother-in-law wants me to leave the house and repeatedly curses me, saying, “May you never have children,” even though we have been married for only 16 months. She does not even allow my husband and me to sit together and eat peacefully. I feel helpless and deeply affected by this situation. What should I do according to Islam? #Anonymous

M31, married, meri wife possessed hai, jin and all, bahut jagah bataye mgr kuch bhi ilaaj nahi hua , recently eo hafiz sahab jo ke Allah wali hai unko bataye toh uno bole ke "Narsu" hai aang par.. iske symtoms yeh hai ke ine sharr paida karta aur reality mein biwi meri mere door door rehti,, no intimacy no love no care, 2 saal pehle sub accha tha, par achanak aisa hogaya.. Kisi ko iski knowledge hai ya koi aise scenario se guzra toh experiance batao aur isku kaisa handle karna aur koi hai kya hyd mein specialist ilaaj karta... Ab thode loga comments mein bolte ke Confu jadu wadu jinn winn kuch nai hai, doctor ko batao.. ya namaz pado quran pado azkar pado wazu se raho qull ke sureh pado , surah bakhra k last ke do ayat pado, hisaar baandlo, subah shaam ke azkaar pado, Allah par bharosa rakho..astigfaar karte raho, Allah ke maafi maangte raho.. yeh sub nakko bolo yaaro maherbaani hoti, jispe guzarri ussko maloom hai.. sooooooob karke dekhliye... Agar aisa bolna hai toh comment hi nakko karo bekaar ke. aur yeh bhi nakko bolo ke inbox me i will guide you ,, ya inbox me , mein inbox mein number dito and all.. jo bhi hai khulla khulla comment mein bolo ... bus guniune reply karo agar koi yeh halath se guzra toh.. ya koi zabardst Allah wale insaan hai toh address diyo ... chalo shukiriya..

We are a happy family living in Sydney, Australia. Alhamdulillah, Allah has blessed us with two beautiful children, a boy and a girl, and a loving family. We are grateful for everything Allah has given us — a good job, stability, and many blessings. ❤️ The only thing we have been praying for is a home of our own. We are still living in a rented house. Alhamdulillah, our relatives, cousins, and brothers have all settled into beautiful homes, and I’m genuinely happy for them. But sometimes I wonder when Allah will bless us with our own home. Owning a home is the main dua I make during Ramadan and in every salah. 🤲🏻 I wanted to ask my brothers and sisters here: Are there any specific duas or Surahs you recommend reading when asking Allah for a home of our own? Is there anything else I can do, apart from making dua, to increase my tawakkul and seek Allah’s blessings? I know Allah’s timing is always perfect, and I trust that He will give us what is best for us at the right time. Please keep us in your duas. May Allah bless every family with a beautiful, peaceful and blessed home. Ameen 🤲🏻 #Anonymous

I got married 9 months ago, and it was a love marriage. The main problems in our marriage were that my husband had a habit of raising his hand against me, and his family interfered in almost every matter of our lives. When I asked my husband to move into a separate house so that we could build our own life together, he clearly refused. As time passed, our problems continued to worsen. Eventually, my husband left me at my parents’ house and did not contact me for an entire month. After that, my family sent the khula papers to his house, and both of us signed them. However, now we both regret what happened and want to get back together. Is it Islamically possible for us to reconcile and marry each other again? #Anonymous

I am a 40-year-old woman, married for 16 years, and blessed with two children: a 15-year-old daughter and an 11-year-old son. My marriage has been a rollercoaster. From the day we got married until now, my husband has done the bare minimum of paying our rent and some utility bills. Everything else has been my responsibility, which I have managed because, Alhamdulillah, I work. However, he sm0kes, drinks alc0h0l, and g@mbles. At the beginning, he used to do these things twice a week, but now he has calmed down slightly. He has no savings and does not want to build a home for us or secure our children’s future. Over the years, I have encouraged him to work hard, save money, and help us buy a property, but nothing has changed. He is also very insecure and has accused me of cheating on several occasions, which has emotionally and mentally hurt me. He plays mind games, too. Both our families know about his behaviour. Unfortunately, my parents tell me to tolerate it, while his family says I must either accept him or leave him. I am mentally and emotionally drained. This marriage has become toxic, and I am worried about my children’s future and mental wellbeing. I have continued for their sake and to protect our family’s reputation, but my children are growing up, and I do not want them to believe this is a normal way of living. Please guide me according to Islam. What should I do? #Anonymous

We've been married for almost 3.5 years, and my wife has had 3 miscarriages (all in early weeks of pargnancy) even though both our medical reports are clear. We feel this trial has also been a blessing for us, because it brought us closer to Allah and to Islam. If anyone has gone through the same thing, or can guide us with any wazifa, duas, diet plan, or anything else we should add to our daily life to have a healthy, righteous baby, please share. I'm the only son of my parents, and they're getting older. I want to see them happy with this blessing in their lives #Anonymous

I am 29 years old, and I got married two years ago. From the beginning, my husband was having an affair with a non-Muslim woman, and he continued it even after our marriage. Whenever I suspected him, he made excuses and denied everything. Once, when I asked to see his phone, he choked me. I felt that I was only there to do household chores, with no love or respect. Despite our repeated arguments, I was always the one who compromised and returned to him. Six months ago, I finally found undeniable proof of his affair. I felt completely betrayed by the man I had trusted and married. He showed no remorse, and I began to feel disgusted even at the thought of seeing him. I moved to my parents’ home. After a meeting between our families, he apologised, and my family agreed to send me back if certain conditions were met. However, he refused to accept them. Four or five months passed without any genuine effort from him to reconcile, and eventually, I decided to separate. Today, we got divorced. I have no children and am financially independent. Yet the pain I felt before the divorce remains. Earlier, I cried because of his betrayal; now, I cry because of the painful label of being a divorcee. How can I heal from this pain? And should I have given him another chance?

A few months ago, my husband had an affair. I cried in front of him, begged him to stop, and did everything I could to save our marriage. Recently, he came to me asking for forgiveness and confessed that he had been physically involved with the other woman. He also admitted that he still has feelings for her, but says he ended the relationship for the sake of the children and their well-being. I feel trapped because I am financially dependent on him and have children to think about. My question is: Is it really that easy for someone to have a physical relationship with another person and then simply return to their spouse asking for forgiveness? Why does it feel like the wife is the one who has to carry all the pain, remain silent, continue raising the children, cooking, cleaning, and holding the family together while living with the wounds of betrayal? Sometimes I find myself asking why such a painful test happens to a loyal wife.

My marriage is going to take place in the next 15 days. I want an experienced married person to give me sincere and practical advice on married life. For example, how should I handle matters with my wife after marriage? In what matters should I respect her opinion and wishes, and in what matters should I stick to my own views? How should I protect my relationship from relatives and negative-minded people? What matters should not be started from the beginning? In what matters is it better to compromise, and in what matters should I clearly set my boundaries? How should a relationship of love, respect, and trust be established with my wife so that unnecessary fights and arguments can be avoided in the future? I am a shopkeeper belonging to a middle-class family. My marriage is completely arranged. I have only seen my future wife in pictures so far, and our conversation has also been only through messages.

Assalamwalaikum 23F, Kal mere husband k close friend ka mayo function tha I have -4 myopia so I'm basically blind without my glasses but function ki wajah se nahi pehne thay Woh mujhe table par bitha kar chale gaye doston k pass aur mene unko stage par jate dekha tha thori der baad entrance ke paas ek larka mujhe ishara kar raha tha sab larkon ne same theme ke kapray pehne thay including my husband toh mujhe laga koi random person hai and I just ignored him I didn't think k woh mere husband honge because I just saw him going towards the stage Baad mein woh khud aye aur apne friend aur unki wife se introduce karwaya and turns out woh mere husband thay Ab woh mujhe tease kar rahe hain k "kya hua mai pasand nahi hon apko jo apne hi shohar ko ignore mar diya bezati ho gayi dost ke samne" He's just joking around since then I know he's saying it in a sweet manner but the thing is I used to get bul++ied a lot during school days just because I was an introvert and called chashmish even until now just by rembering those class fellows I get te+rs in my eyes.. glasses utaru toh kuch nazar nahi ata aur lenses se eyes dry ho jati hain so I don't wear them I know this isn't a huge thing but it brings back all those ho++ible childhood memories and I felt like I made him embarrassed in front of his friend.. Am I over thinking?

I am a married man currently living away from my wife. When we feel the need for s*xual intimacy, we sometimes speak intimately over the phone or through FaceTime and arouse each other. During these conversations, I m@sturbate until I ejaculate, with my wife’s participation. Is this sinful, or is it permissible because it takes place between husband and wife? Could you please explain the Islamic ruling with relevant evidence from the Qur'an and authentic Hadith, including any differences of scholarly opinion? If it is prohibited, what permissible alternatives are available while we are living apart?

Aoa 26f here ! Married from past 5 years .. graduated and have done several courses to gain some good skills.I try my best to practice Islam in my daily life .I’m a huge believer of the concept that a man has to earn and provide (emotionally , phys+++lly & financially) and a woman has to manage the house , do good tarbiyah of the kids and make the environment peaceful for the husband . And mutually both should respect each other and should look good for each other. In the start my husband didn’t want me to do job since my MIL passed away and there was no one who could take proper care of my FIL , he said if I’ll go to the job too so we’ll not have enough time for each other and my FIL ….he is there to provide for me and I accepted it (I believe k ghar ka ek hi sarbarah hota hai or wo Allah ny mard ko hi banaya hai to last word should be of a man if he isn’t saying anything other than shariah) . I did my best to take care of my FIL just like my own dad and Allhamdullilah he is happy with us too .. after a year Allah has blessed us with a kid .. since he wanted ! And now my kid will be going to school and husband has no issue with me doing a job and i don’t even know from where to start I mean after all this time I’ve been at home and taking care of everything and being a mother is not less than a job itself ..(my husband is a good man he happily provides for us and I adore him completely I’ve got no issues regarding him not fulfilling my basic needs or even my desires he would definitely buy me the diamond ka set If he could or whatever he thinks I would like to have ) I believe k rizk deny Wala wala sirf Allah hai .. had read a post about nikammi 90% aurtein .. agr to Bhai ap ghair Muslim hain to Khair but if you are a Muslim to I highly disagree .. if a woman has left her house to be with you and doing all the things which are under her domain to apko Kia masla hai to fulfill her several wishes ? Jo Apki istataat main nahi hain ap wo puri na kryn par Jo kr skty hain usm Kia masla hai ??? Or agar ap stingy hain bhi to Ap Yh sab batyn or living standard start main share krden shadi se phly Taky Agli koi expectations na lgaye apsyyy

F ... Alhamdulillah, I have read all your comments, and I am truly grateful for your kind encouragement. I was very distressed when I wrote that post, but your words have given me renewed enthusiasm. One comment in particular stayed with me — that so many women leave without treatment when they can not find a female doctor. It reminded me of serving the Ummah and that niyyah often matters more than the action itself. I never wanted to stop being a doctor; I just needed to learn how to maintain strict boundaries, as many of you advised. I have chosen a women-friendly speciality, Alhamdulillah, but harassment is not limited to male consultants or seniors. It can come from management or even male cleaning staff. Insha'Allah, I pray Allah blesses me with a safe work environment. Regarding marriage, I did receive proposals, but they came with many demands. With the health issues I developed during my medical years due to immense stress, I worry about fulfilling my duties as a wife. Still, if my father brings a suitable proposal, I will certainly consider it. One humble request — please do not speak ill of my parents. They are not at fault. They only want the best for me and do not want my years of hard work and training to go to waste because of my fears. Your support meant so much that I had to write this note of appreciation. May Allah SWT bless all of you who take time to spread goodness to strangers. Every word is an Amanah for our Aakhirah, and I pray you are rewarded in full for your kindness on Yaum al-Hashr. A request to the admins, there were few horrendous comments about " you should do s* uic!de " " you wasted your degree", such statements can prove very harmful to those already battling with mental health issues, please take strict action against these people as this page reflects alot of positivity and good vibes.

Hi, I'm 26 yrs old from Hyderabad. My parents are searching for a guy for the past 4+ yrs. Unfortunately, no match for me. I don’t even want good looks, abroad proposals. Just Hyderabadi with decent family & settled. Now, I'm fed up. I already said my Mom to stop & go ahead for my younger siblings. She confronted me, Allah bahut bada hai don't repeat this she said. I always hold new hope every time. I can't express how shattered I'm. Whenever we liked the guy & went ahead, we would come to know about his character later. That he's engaged in some vulgar activities or physical relationships & all. I want untouched coz I'M UNTOUCHED! I trust my Allah. People around me say, there's no guy who's not involved in relationships. If he's bad, he'll mend his ways after getting married. Like seriously?? What the hell is this? I dunno why Am I hearing all these nonsense. Sometimes, I feel, is this true? Is there nobody who's virgin? If not, I'll never get married. I can sacrifice anything but not my honor. The guy I'll get married to, Insha Allah he'll be the only one for me, enough for me. I'll show him the peak level of 'Loyalty' he has never seen or he'll never ever see in anyone else.

I hope everyone is fine. I do not know why I am writing all this here but I am in desperate need of advice from neutral people. I am a 29 year old male. I have been married to my 25 year old wife for 1.5 years and Allah has blessed us with a child who is now 5 months old. She is my cousin from my mothers side. She is my khala daughter. Around 4 weeks ago I found some disturbing texts on my wife phone. The guy was her classmate from university and I found out that she had been in a relationship with him for 2 years. They broke up around 10 months before our marriage. There were many disturbing things in those screenshots. After reading them I feel like my love for her has completely disappeared. The texts were not on WhatsApp. They were screenshots saved in her gallery which were also backed up to her Google Drive. I never had any doubts about her before this. She had actually handed me her phone herself so I could take some pictures of our baby. I tried my best to stay quiet about what I had found but she noticed that I was behaving differently. She asked me what was wrong and I told her everything. After hearing it she started apologising again and started crying. She kept asking for my forgiveness and asking me not to send her to her parents house. I tried everything I could but in the end I did send her away. During these 2 weeks I have not really missed her or felt lonely. Instead whenever I think about everything I feel anger and disgust. I have also been taking sessions with a psychologist for the past week but every time I talk about this situation I feel my anger getting stronger. Right now I feel like divorce might be the better option for both of us because I do not think I can take her back and I most certainly cannot love her the way I did before. I have also told my psychologist that I am thinking about divorce. He advised me not to make any decisions right now and to take things slowly. Basically he is against me making a decision about divorce at this point. At the same time I do not want to make a decision while I am this angry. We also have a 5 month old child and I know that whatever decision I make will affect more than just the 2 of us. Please suggest a way for me to handle these feelings because I genuinely cannot make a decision right now. I know this is my own mess and I should handle it myself but any advice from neutral people would be appreciated.

I’ve been in a marriage where everything feels like a burden. It feels like I’m living in a cage, where the keys are only in my husband’s hands. I’m not really free to go anywhere, and he doesn’t seem interested in changing that. We’ve been married for almost 3 years, and I feel completely alone. He can go out with friends and colleagues, but we hardly ever spend time together. There’s little to no affection, intimacy, emotional support, or communication. Sometimes I feel like I’m just the mother of his child. He provides the basic necessities, and I appreciate that, but is marriage supposed to be only about food, clothes, and a roof? I grew up in a toxic environment, and I don’t want to spend the rest of my life in another one. I want to grow, have goals, experience life, and actually feel loved and supported by my partner. So I genuinely want to ask are these valid reasons to consider leaving a marriage? Or am I expecting too much?

I am 27 years old and engaged to my 23-year-old cousin. Four years ago, we had a relationship, but she ended it because she believed it was wrong Islamically. I respected her decision. After years of little contact, we became engaged. Now, even though we only speak occasionally, she often speaks rudely to me, shows little interest in marriage, and keeps delaying it with excuses. She says she wants to marry me, but not now. It feels as though marriage is the last thing on her list of priorities. She often acts as if she does not need a husband and does not value me. Her mother always supports her position, and my parents do not seem to take my concerns seriously. I genuinely want to marry and protect myself from falling into sin, but my needs are becoming difficult to control. What does Islam say about this situation?

I'm married to an American Christian woman. We lived together in Greece, and for the first three years our marriage was very good. She told me she would study Islam, and eventually she accepted Islam. Because of that, I delayed having children, hoping we would build our family upon Islam. Later, she changed completely. She and her family wanted me to move to America. They offered me an American passport, a house, and a business, but on one condition: that I leave Islam and become a Christian. They told me that if I refused, I should divorce my wife. I rejected their offer immediately and told them that I would never leave Islam. I said that I was born a Muslim and, by Allah's permission, I will die a Muslim. Eventually, I divorced my wife. Did I do the right thing Islamically?

Hello! I am 21F. I have been a very extrovert girl with no social anxiety. I had alot of friends in school and college and some of them were my bestfriends. As the time passed, I lost all of friends even though I used to talk with them, I was there to support them. After my fsc, due to some reasons I started studying online. in my home. I feel like my life has stopped. Everyone is enjoying their life with their uni friends and here I am stuck in the home. I don't have any friends now to whom I can talk. I have a good relationship with my family so I don't mind staying at home all day, but whenever I see my friends with their friends enjoying their lives, I start overthinking my life and become depressed. I start having negative thoughts that only my life is going bad, I shouldn't be al++e etc. I try to be grateful but I am stuck in these thoughts. I c+y all day and night because I feel so alone. I've been in home and all my extrovert, funnier, lively personality is vanishing. I want to be myself but I can't. What can i do to overcome these thoughts? I don't want to h+++ myself and lose my charm but I am stuck with these thoughts that I shouldn't be al++e, my life is wo++t of all etc. Also I am a girl who is happy for everyone, I didn't feel jealous of anyone. But now I feel jealous if anyone has friends or he/she is enjoying their life. I don't want myself to be this kinda girl. I want the pure and kind hearted girl back that i used to be. Because of all this I am struggling with my studies and everything. Please suggest me anything. I never thought I would be this alone to seek help online

I'm a 33-year-old married man and an IT Engineer. I have been married for two years, and we have a daughter. I need some honest advice because this situation has been affecting me emotionally for quite some time. From the very beginning of our engagement until today, I have never really felt my wife being possessive or emotionally attached to me in the way I expected from a wife. I always try my best to fulfill her wishes and needs—good clothes, good food, outings, and vacations. I have even arranged trips abroad for us three times. I always make an effort to make her feel comfortable, valued, and cared for. This is now the third time she is coming to Saudi Arabia to visit me, but I don't feel much excitement, happiness, attraction, or emotional attachment from her side. She behaves as if everything is just normal. Sometimes I feel that I don't hold the same value or importance in her life that she holds in mine. What hurts me the most is that I don't feel that natural attraction, affection, or excitement from her that I believe a wife should have for her husband. Even my possessiveness towards her seems normal to her, whereas emotionally I feel very strongly about her. I have always tried to take care of her needs. Since the beginning, I have also given her separate pocket money and made sure she has what she needs. I'm not saying these things because I expect something in return, but sometimes I feel that despite everything I do, I'm still not emotionally important to her. This has started affecting me mentally and emotionally. At times, I feel so lonely and emotionally neglected that I start thinking about getting into a second relationship—someone who might listen to me, understand my emotions, appreciate me, and make me feel wanted. I honestly don't want to make a wrong decision while I'm emotionally overwhelmed. I'm under a lot of stress because of this, and sometimes I feel like I've reached my limit. So I genuinely need advice: Should I consider another relationship, or should I try to work on my marriage and find a way to resolve these feelings? I swear, sometimes I feel like I just can't take this emotional pain anymore

I Am 27 years old work in a company as a sales man 1 saal Ho gya hai Hamari Shadi ko its a arrange marriage sab thk chal raha hai she is so good loving caring har cheez ka khayal rakhti hai but i am not feeling well mujhy kuch incomplete sa feel hota hai jaisy ye wo nahi hai jo mujhy chahiye thi har time dimagh kahin aur ghumta rahta hai na mera us sy bat karny ko dil karta hai na hi close hony ko but she is very good person har trhan sath deti hai and luv me a lot mera dil karta hai k dusri shadi kar lun but she said wo ye bardash nahi kary gi so give me some good advice what should i do should i leave her aur not rather than i go for the second marriage

Assallam alaikum, F I am 28 now, married for three years, and this is something I have never told anyone. My marriage was arranged by my parents. They believed they were choosing the best man for me, and honestly, my husband is a good person. He respects me, takes care of me, and has never given me a reason to complain. But the truth is, I was in love with someone else. His name doesn't matter anymore. We were together for almost four years. We had dreams, plans, and promises. We wanted to marry each other, but our families belonged to different communities. Jab maine ghar par baat ki, everything changed. My parents cried, stopped talking to me properly, and kept saying, "Hum sirf tumhari bhalai chahte hain." I was emotionally exhausted. I finally gave up. On my wedding day, everyone said I looked beautiful. Andar se I felt completely broken. I remember smiling for photographs while silently saying goodbye to the person I truly loved. We stopped talking after my marriage, but for months I would check my phone hoping for one message. My husband never knew this. He thought I was just adjusting to a new life. In a way, I was. I learned how to be a wife, daughter-in-law, and eventually a partner. Slowly, life became normal. We have built a peaceful home together. But sometimes … When I hear an old song or pass a place that reminds me of my past, I wonder what life would have been if I had fought harder. Kya main zyada khush hoti? I don't know. Maybe yes, maybe no. The hardest part is that I feel guilty for remembering someone who is no longer a part of my life. I love my husband in my own way now, but it is different from my first love. People say time heals everything. I think time teaches you how to live with an unfinished chapter. I am not looking for sympathy. I just wanted to say this somewhere because carrying this truth alone has become very heavy. Maybe some other woman reading this will understand that sometimes the life we live is not the life we once chose.

I'm 22F, I m still unmarried but as soon the weather gets dumpy and rainy cloudy, this desire to get married overwhelms me. I wish I had tall white handsome man holding my head in his lap, combing my hairs, playing with my ears, letting me biting his biceps, making me coffee, feeding me roti with his hands, singing for me, kissing my feet, brushing my teeth, telling me tales of my beauty, buying jewelry for me every month, arranging picnic for me and my bestie every Sunday.

I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for around 6 months. We both live in a Western country, and during this time I became extremely emotionally attached to her. The problem is that my trust has been broken several times. The first time, her ex called her late at night. I let it go because I thought she couldn't control an ex trying to contact her. But later, I caught her adding her ex through a female/alternate account. Another time, she unblocked him on Instagram and then received a call from him while I was with her. I've also caught other things involving different guys that made my trust even worse. Now she wants to get married as soon as possible. She cries, begs me to marry her and promises she will never do these things again. But at the same time, she tells me I won't have access to her phone until we are married. Her family environment is also very toxic, which gives me another concern about marrying into the situation. I'm stuck because I genuinely like her and my attachment to her is extremely strong, but everything that happened keeps replaying in my head. Part of me wants to believe her promises, while another part of me feels like once trust has been broken this many times in only 6 months, marriage could make the situation even harder. If you were in my position, would you give her another chance and consider marriage, or end the relationship permanently?

My husband is cheating on me. We have two sons, and I realized later that he was not loyal to me. I don't know what I should do because I'm having anxiety attacks, and he knows about them. Ever since I found out, he has been mentally torturing me.

A Confession After Twelve Years We have been friends for almost twelve years. Twelve years of conversations, laughter, secrets, arguments, and memories. Somewhere along the way, our friendship became something neither of us ever planned. We both got married—to different people—and life moved forward. But somehow, we never completely lost touch. We continued talking, checking on each other, and sharing things we couldn't easily share with everyone else. Then, a few months ago, something changed. Our conversations became more frequent. We started talking almost every day, sometimes for hours. We became emotionally closer than we had ever been, and slowly, the boundaries of our friendship became blurred. Now we have reached a point where we both want to meet—not simply as old friends, but to understand what this connection between us really means. There is also a temptation to become physically closer, even if it happens only once. And honestly, that is what makes this so complicated. Part of me says, "It's only one meeting. Maybe it will give us closure." But another part asks, "What if one meeting changes everything?" Because we are both married, this isn't just about two old friends following their feelings. There are two other people, two families, and years of trust involved. Maybe the strongest thing we can do is pause before meeting and ask ourselves what we truly want—and what we might lose. Sometimes, being close to someone doesn't mean we have to cross every boundary. Maybe this friendship is precious because it survived twelve years. And perhaps the real test of our feelings isn't whether we can get closer, but whether we can care enough about each other to stop before we hurt the people who trust us. So I don't know whether meeting "just once" is a good idea. I only know that if we meet, it should be with complete honesty about the consequences—not because one moment of emotion is stronger than twelve years of friendship, marriage, and trust.

I'm a 30-year-old woman, a practicing Muslim, financially independent, and Alhamdulillah I feel blessed with many things in my life. However, at this age, everyone is concerned about my marriage. For the past two and a half years, I had feelings for someone I met at my workplace. I never told him because I am very shy, and I had many fears and uncertainties. I did not know enough about him to approach him regarding marriage, but my intentions were pure. I prayed to Allah for him and hoped that if there was goodness in it, Allah would make it happen. He often seemed interested in me. He would look at me, appreciate me, and try to talk to me, which made me think that perhaps one day he would approach me for nikah. However, that never happened. Then one day I found out that he was engaged. It hurt me deeply and completely shattered me. A month or two later, he happily announced his wedding date, and everyone around him was congratulating him and discussing his marriage plans. Seeing this broke my heart even more. Since then, I have been struggling badly. I overthink constantly, feel depressed, distracted, and emotionally exhausted. I feel far from Allah and unable to find peace. I keep thinking about him even though I know he is now married and I do not want to think about a married man. I keep asking Allah to heal my heart, but I feel stuck in this pain. Sometimes, out of hurt, I even find myself asking Allah to let him feel the same pain I am feeling, although I know that may be wrong. I see him almost every day at work, which makes everything even harder. What was my fault in all of this? How do I move on, heal, and reconnect with Allah after being so deeply hurt?

I am a second wife and I have been thinking about what the signs are of being in the right marriage or relationship. When I asked my husband and co-wife this question, they both answered that Allah would not bless a couple with children if they were not in the right relationship. Personally, I feel that this answer is only partly correct. I think there may be more to a healthy and blessed marriage, such as how people treat one another, whether there is peace, kindness, cooperation, and whether life flows well between them. I have also seen many good couples with strong marriages who are unable to have children due to medical reasons, and I do not believe that automatically means they are in the wrong relationship. This made me wonder about my own situation. Both my co-wife and I lost our first pregnancies with our husband at roughly the same stage, although later we were both blessed with living children. If having children is the main sign of being in the right relationship, then would losing a pregnancy be considered a sign that the relationship was wrong? I would like to understand the Islamic perspective on this.

Female We spent three years together in a loving and respectful relationship. He supported me through my happiness and difficulties, cared for me deeply, and always treated me with respect. We stayed committed to each other and did not cross any physical boundaries before marriage. After those three years, we got married and started our life together with hope and love. However, after marriage, we faced a very painful issue. When we tried to be intimate, my husband was unable to perform, and despite many attempts, we could not consummate the marriage. Months passed, and we kept this matter private at first. After some time, we sought medical help, but the issue still remained. Now it has been six months, and the situation has not changed. I am still a virgin, and my husband is emotionally and mentally distressed. He feels broken and has even told me that I should leave him and marry someone else so I can have a normal life. I love him deeply and cannot imagine leaving him. He has sacrificed a lot for me, and I value him beyond this issue. At the same time, I am confused and worried about our future, especially regarding intimacy and having children. I don't know what the right decision is, and I am seeking sincere advice on how to handle this situation in the best way.

I would like to ask about my marriage. Since we got married, my husband has become very cold and distant towards me. He always keeps a gap between us emotionally and physically. He rarely talks to me about anything meaningful, and whenever he is at home, he spends most of his time on his phone. He almost never shows affection. He does not hug me, kiss me, or make me feel loved. If I try to initiate affection myself, he often pulls away or pushes me away. He tells me that he cannot touch me before prayer, but I have read that this is not correct. I feel deeply neglected and lonely in this marriage. Because of this loneliness, I sometimes find myself developing feelings towards other men, which frightens me. I do not want to betray my husband or commit any sin, but I am struggling emotionally. We also have a young son, and he is one of the main reasons I have not pursued divorce. I do not want my child to grow up without his father, and I am afraid of handling everything alone. What should I do according to Islam?

I am a widow with four children. My husband passed away a few months ago, and after completing my iddah, I received a marriage proposal from one of my late husband's friends. He is a good man, practices Islam well, and has a good relationship with both me and my children. He is willing to accept me and my children as part of his life. I cannot see anything wrong with him, but remarriage is not currently my priority. I am also concerned about what people around us might think or say if I decide to marry him. I would like to know what Islam teaches in this situation. Should I consider the proposal, or should I decline it because of people's opinions?

Assalamualaikum I (29M) am currently preparing my profile for marriage I have drafted an extended private and sensitive questionnaire document to help a potential partner and me get on the exact same page early on. My question to the community: How would you react if a potential spouse presented you with a structured questionnaire for both early in the talking phase? Does this come across as mature, efficient, and serious, or is it too intense/intimidating for a first step? For sisters who prioritize Deen and critical thinking: Would you appreciate this level of upfront clarity, or would you prefer these topics to come up naturally through conversation? If you have used a deep questionnaire, how did it go? What are the pitfalls I should watch out for? Looking forward to your honest insights and advice on the format. JazakAllahu Khayran!

I have been married for 13 years. Throughout the marriage, I have paid half of the household bills and covered all of the food and clothing expenses for our children. Only recently has my husband started wanting to take control of the children and the finances. Due to poor health, I now want to leave work, but my husband has told me that he will not provide for me financially. He used to eat the food I cooked, but he has stopped doing so and now arranges his own meals. We barely speak to each other, and he lives in the house more like a lodger than a husband. We share the same bed, but there is no intimacy between us. He also believes that I have done black magic on him. Some time ago, he issued one divorce, but after about two months we reconciled. Three weeks later, his behavior changed again. He now says that the divorce does not count because he was suffering from mental health issues at the time. Given all of this, is our nikah still valid? What should I do Islamically in this situation?

Hi everyone. I want to ask you guys that I've been fall in love with a foreign girl but she is elder than me. Our age gap is not 2 or 3 years. She is 33 & I'm 23. 10 years gap. And she has also relationships in past.. Personally I'm not worried about past but worried about age because Based on my current situation we can't meet probably for 2 years. I'm struggling with my career and she is getting older. I like her so much and she also do I think more than I do. We have great time till now. I need your honest suggestion please because later I don't want to hurt her feeling

I've been married since 2021, having three kids. I saw messages from my husband's ex-girlfriend also cousin on his WhatsApp. She had come home country, and they were both in contact. She doesn't contact him from abroad because of her husband as with him she's living happily, but after coming to Pakistan, they both (my husband and that lady) got in contact. She will go back soon, but I have read such romantic and disgusting chats. And I have those chats with me. Even though my husband deleted those chats, I still have them. They were having relationships in the past too, I warned her that time too but from the chat I got to know that they used to talk on n off. She's having a kid from his husband as well. I want to show those chats to my husband and that girl so they know that I am aware of everything and at least they should be embarrassed. My husband comes home on weekends. How should I do all this, and what should I do? Please give me some advice.

I have been with my husband for about eight months now, and we got married in July. It has only been about one month since we got married. Recently, I told him about a health condition I have. At first, he accepted it and seemed okay with it, but later he told me that he could not continue being with me because of my condition and that he wanted a divorce. My father is an imam who treats people, but because of the stigma surrounding my condition, I had never told him about it. When my husband asked for a divorce, I finally told my father. He contacted my husband and told him that he could treat me. I followed the treatment for three weeks and then went for another test, but the condition was still there. I told my husband, and he said that if it went away, he would stay with me, but if it remained, he did not think he could continue the marriage. His family members also spoke to him and advised him to take me to the hospital so that I could receive proper treatment. However, he refused. He said he felt betrayed because I should have told him before we got married. He said that if I had told him earlier, he would have been able to make his decision before the marriage. He also said that because he has another wife and children, he does not want to risk bringing any health concerns into that family. At first, I could not accept his decision. I pleaded with him and tried everything I could to save the marriage, but he kept saying that his decision was final and that he wanted a divorce. Later, I went to the hospital for another test, and they told me that my condition had improved, although it was still present. When the hospital spoke to him and tried to advise him, he said that the condition was no longer the main reason for the divorce. He said there were personal reasons, but whenever I ask him what those reasons are, he does not want to explain. The day after I told him about my condition, he packed his things from my room and went to stay with my co-wife. I had not seen him for about three weeks. Then, on Wednesday, he came to see me. We became intimate, and afterward he left. He came again on Friday, and we became intimate again. But despite everything that happened between us, he still tells me that he wants a divorce. I am now confused because his actions and his words do not seem to match. I do not know where I stand with him anymore. I still love him deeply, and I do not want to lose my marriage, but I also do not want to keep chasing someone who has already made up his mind. I need honest advice about what his behavior means, where I stand with him, and what I should do from here.

I am 30 years old. Mine was an arranged marriage, and my wife is nine years younger than me. She is a wonderful woman, and I have always considered myself very fortunate to have such a beautiful spouse. We have now been married for two years. Recently, after a serious conversation about the past, my wife disclosed that before our marriage she was sexually assaulted by one of her cousins against her will. She strongly denies that it was consensual and insists that she was a victim. Since hearing this, I feel completely shattered. I do not want to divorce her or ruin her life, and I still want her in my life, but my heart is struggling, my trust feels broken, and I feel emotionally lost. What should I do according to Islam?

I have been married for nearly 6 years. My husband is a good man in many ways and treats me with kindness, but we have struggled with intimacy since the beginning of our marriage. He has a medical condition that affects our marital relationship, and despite seeing doctors a few times, he has not continued treatment consistently. Every time I raise the issue, he says he will deal with it later, but years keep passing without much change. I am now in my mid-thirties and deeply desire children. Watching family and friends grow their families has become emotionally painful for me. I love my husband and do not want to leave him, but I also fear losing the opportunity to become a mother. I sometimes feel guilty for thinking about separation because of this issue, yet I do not know how long I should continue waiting. From an Islamic perspective, am I wrong for feeling this way, and what should I do?

I have been married for over 4 years, but my husband and I have never been able to have intercourse because of difficulties related to his weight. I have tried to be patient, but I am finding it harder now because I want children. He wants us to do IVF, but I don't feel comfortable going straight to IVF when we have never been able to try naturally. I have asked him many times to lose weight and take care of his health, but he doesn't make an effort to exercise and often returns to the same habits. This situation has affected me emotionally, and I even went through periods of depression because of it. I love him, but I also think about leaving because I do not know if things will ever change. From an Islamic perspective, am I wrong for feeling this way, and how long should someone remain patient in a situation like this?

I need honest, mature advice. My head is a mess, and I am completely lost on what to do next. I am a 33-year-old male. I had an arranged marriage in 2019. Alhamdulillah, we have a beautiful son, and by Allah's grace, I am doing very well financially. Two years ago, we moved into our own separate house due to some family issues. Things were okay—or at least, I thought they were. Three months ago, my world completely flipped. One night, I woke up to voices. My wife was on the phone at 2:00 AM, laughing and engaged in cheap talk. I confronted her right then and there. She broke down, begged for forgiveness, and swore on the Quran that "nothing physical happened and it will never happen again." I took her phone to check. After recovering her deleted chats, I found out she wasn't just talking to one person—she was talking to another guy as well and accepting gifts from him. When I confronted her with the evidence, she said, "Main bhatak gayi thi. Mera zameer mujhe kehta tha ke tum galat kar rahi ho." She swore oaths again. For the sake of Allah and for the future of my innocent son, I forgave her. I didn't tell a single soul about this. Her parents are no longer in this world. she only has two older brothers and a sister. Keeping this heavy secret inside pushed me into severe clinical depression. I spent two months on medication. Alhamdulillah, I am healing now and trying to stay strong. I genuinely thought we could rebuild our home. Then, two weeks ago, I dropped her off at her brother's house. She told me to pick her up in the evening. When evening came, I called her repeatedly, but she didn't answer. I then called her Bhabhi (sister-in-law), who casually told k wo apni sister ky gar gai hy... with her sister's husband (brother-in-law). I had clearly and strictly told her multiple times never to go anywhere without my permission. She completely disregarded my boundaries and lied about her whereabouts. That was the breaking point for me. I blocked her. It has been two weeks now. I haven't gone to her brother's house to bring her back, and she is still there. Right now, I am living completely alone. and I miss my son terribly. Because of this mess, my son hasn't been going to school for the last two weeks, and his education is suffering. I am deeply confused and emotionally exhausted. 1. Should I continue this relationship after the broken trust and constant lies? 2. Should I tell her older brothers everything that happened three months ago so they know the truth, or should I keep quiet? Please guide me with maturity. What is the right step for me and my son.

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Unfortunately being honest gets you nowhere nowadays. It just backfires 2025 January I met the guy of my dreams, we met once after that it was long distance. We both live in USA but he's on west coast and me on east coast. August 2025 we spend two amazing weeks together. December 2025 he end our relationship. I was devastated and heartbroken. He said it wasn't me. It was because of immigration laws. I truly don't know the truth if he was always married or had to get married. I trusted him and I feel like a fool. I try my best to move on. He was my first relationship and I thought we would get married. I always felt loved and respected by him. I have no idea if he got married or not. We are not in any contact since he blocked me. We ended it on a good terms, but the pain still lingers. I try my best to move on. Fast forward June 2026, I decided to talk to guys on Muzz. Always ask me if I'm virgin or not. And I'm honest don't want to start any relationship over lies and Expect the same in return. But these guys would ask me such weird uncomfortable questions. and I would feel so uncomfortable how can you ask these stuff? I decided to take a break and stop talking to men. ( my ex never spoke to me like this and he was the only man I spoke to and now this is so difficult) I am not comparing him to anyone and my heart is just broken, how can I move on with all this nonsense. Right now I have decided to just stay single but once I'm ready to look for someone My question is how does one deal with this? Please be respectful and help me.

Salam my brothers,, I'm 28 yrs old ( Male) ,Account officer,recently got engaged to a girl 3 yrs elder than me, she's lecturer( bps-17) ,, just after engagement my mind is occupied with various negative thoughts and I'm so much worried thinking again and again that whether it was a good decision,, sometimes i think i should have married some younger girl, sometimes i think i should have opted for a non working , housewife,, i should have waited to find a more prettier one,, before engagement i never had these thoughts in my mind,, now I'm so much disturbed all the time thinking about various ifs and buts,, kindly help me tackle this situation please

I am a first year student in a reputable university..since I'm new..I feel so awkward..it's not like I'm introvert or shy...I open up myself to the people I'm very close to...yet I'm unable to make friends of my personality or vibe doesn't match...I am in a grp of 4 in which I can clearly see a duo and one is in their world...I'm actually friendly type of person yet I take time for it...I want to enjoy my uni life with lots of friends and memories as well as I want to maintain good grades...I have big dreams yet it feels to hard to achieve ..I didn't even tell about it to others bcz I know they might mock me...also it's not the first time I feel left out..in czns grp or schoolmates ...I feel like an extra...I don't wanna be centre of attention but at least I want a genuine friend for me...I never had a best friend...all my life i eager to had one yet couldn't...still now I want to hv one but it feels hard to have even a good grp..in my university all of them are 10..I feel low..I try to dress well..talk well..try to improve...yet everyone is so better than me...I thought when I get married I'll make my future husband my best friend...yet I feel like it may be not gonna happen bcz I'm kind of scared of marriage too like what if if ended up with a wrong person u know how peopleare nowadays like k*** partner over little stuff...... I lack confidence, don't have great energy in a circle like others...I'm not so pretty yet not ugly...I'm not so intelligent but not too dumb..I'm stuck in average point now in all aspects..I wonder why would anyone chose me ...an average person..who is not open up..while others are so good in everything...idk how to be better..how to improve myself? I can't even tell a truth with confidence yet people lie with so much confidence....I wonder if anything is wrong with me...like why me? Why I'm stuck here while God has given everyone everything... I need sincere advice from experienced people .

Assalamualaikum, F post as this anonymous.... I am 32F with 2 kids....My husband cheated on me...he married another lady and started his own life.....I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers...What should I do? Should I move on in my life? Should I compromise?

I'm a 30-year-old woman with some serious questions for men who treat their wives like maids instead of life partners. Why do you think your wife should take responsibility for you, your house, your kids, your parents, and even your anger issues? Why should she work all day like a maid and still be ready for you in bed whenever you want? Do you see her as a life partner or just a housemaid? Do you really think of her as a human being or some firm stone which even doesn't have feelings and pain? Really, is 9 months of pregnancy like playing with dolls final baby delivered or 9 months of physical, mental issues, depression, anxiety, plus working all day like a maid? Do you truly feel her like a life partner or a maid? Islamic Teachings on Marriage: In the Quran, Surah Ar-Rum (30:21) states: "And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed, in that are signs for a people who give thought." This portrays the wife as a life partner bringing peace, love, and compassion. Surah An-Nisa (4:19) instructs: "Treat your wives with kindness, even if you dislike them; perhaps Allah will place much good in it." It urges goodness regardless of feelings, fostering harmony. Surah Al-Baqarah (2:187) says: "They are clothing for you, and you are clothing for them." Spouses provide comfort, protection, and intimacy, like garments. Prophetic Guidance: The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "The best of you are those who are best to their wives, and I am the best of you to my wives" (Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah). In a hadith narrated by Aisha, the Prophet stated: "I am to you like Abu Zar'ah was to Umm Zar'ah" in love and loyalty (Bukhari). Another narration advises: When seeing an attractive woman, hurry to your wife for intimacy, as she fulfills the same desires (Muslim). The Prophet said: "Do not treat your wives like servants, for they are the most deserving of good treatment and kindness from you." The Prophet helped with household chores, mending clothes, and serving himself, showing true partnership (Bukhari, Muslim). Challenging Misconceptions: Where in Islam is there even one verse that justifies disrespecting her or her parents? Where does it say to slap her, verbally abuse her, make her pregnant every year, leave all household duties solely on her while you return from work, eat, relax, and sleep? Where does it demand such things during Nikah? Where does it command that she always stay silent like a mute, blind to all the pain and blame you give her, keeping her head bowed? Where does it say she must waive her mahr and beg from her parents for your sake? Where does it say if the husband is ignorant, alcoholic, or a consumer of haram, she must endure it, tolerate it, and try to reform him? Where in Islam does it say a wife must endure her husband's zina, mistresses, or friendships with other women? Why is a man's every sin forgiven, but a woman's smallest response seen as a scandal in society?